As it turns out, we have more in common in terms of attitude, lifestyle and outlook than anyone I’ve ever met, so it’s been pretty easy in terms of adjustment.But I also asked them about what they expected in a boyfriend/spouse and what they thought of foreign men they had met. It’s important to note that these women were from excellent universities and very intelligent.Some are into the “pure blood” grandchildren idea, while others feel the cultures are just too different for a successful marriage.I know in Taiwan, many women there have complained about marrying the firstborn son and being poorly treated by their in-laws, since that son is supposed to take care of his parents.Dating begins after college and most importantly, they didn’t believe in casual dating.What I mean by that is that they expected to be friends first until they knew each other well, then the man would ask the woman to be his girlfriend and if she accepted, they were not only dating but seriously dating.I know quite a few divorces that later took place because of this situation.When I lived in Shanghai, many of the women in my office were curious about my marriage and how my wife and I got along, being from different cultures.
Plus, I always feel that her English compared to my Chinese is so superior that I would be an idiot to find fault with her. I never had this problem but it can be pretty common with some.
However, when I was living in mainland China and Taiwan, I had a chance to observe, ask questions and learn more from others involved in cross cultural relationships.
I am hoping this is more of a “reader contribution” forum rather than just one man’s opinion, so feel free to chime in with your own experiences and observations.
I was able to find this reference paper online, studying the “cultural impact upon the dating scripts, perceptions, and behaviors of college students from the United States and Taiwan in their cross-cultural romantic relationships”.
Click on the green link for the Adobe Acrobat file.